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Tuesday, April 14, 2009

God Draws Straight With Crooked Lines: Our Journey Home to the Catholic Faith

©2008, Randall Beeler

“I have to put my livelihood where my beliefs are.” I knew what I had to do. I just had no way to see how it could happen.

My wife, Pam, and I were both ordained United Methodist pastors, serving three congregations between us. We had three children, ages 16, 15, and 12. Their college educations would soon be upon us. We had only recently paid off our school loans.

It was the Tuesday after Easter Sunday 2005, the week when I took my annual post-Easter retreat. This year we didn’t have the funds for me to go to the retreat house I normally went to. So, I stayed at home, shut off my cell phone, prayed, and read a book I had promised Pam I’d read—two years ago—Mark Shea’s By What Authority: An Evangelical Encounters Catholic Tradition.

Shea’s book was an invigorating of all I had already known—and had turned my back on. After all, I’d been Catholic for 11 good years, after having embraced the Faith at the University of Dallas (UD), as a 19-year-old sophomore.

During my upbringing in Southwestern Pennsylvania, I’d been baptized as an infant in the Lutheran Church and later confirmed in the Presbyterian Church at age 14. In high school, I was a me-and-my-Bible Christian who looked askance at “organized religion.” I went to the very-Catholic UD in Fall 1981 with a mission to show all those Texas Catholics how wrong they were.

Instead of battling Texas Inquisitors, I met loving people who invited me to join their morning Liturgy of the Hours group. This sola scriptura boy was amazed at the Scripture-laden Divine Office and the faith of my new Catholic friends.

By the Fall of my Sophomore year, when I attended UD’s Rome Semester, I fell in love with the Church, even as I read Augustine’s Confessions in a weekend inside Santa Maria Maggiore Cathedral and St. Peter’s. As I left the Basilica on a brilliant Sunday afternoon, I was amazed at the crowd waiting outside for me. I turned around to find that I was looking up at Pope John Paul II preaching. And I was in the front row! It felt like he was speaking to me.

That next Spring, I completed (at Main Campus) the RCIA (Rite of Christian Initiation of Adults) training I’d begun in Rome and was received into the Church on Holy Saturday Vigil 1983. I stayed up all night in the Eucharistic Chapel, praying before the Presence, then greeted the dawn by sitting in a tree on Seminary Hill as I said a Rosary. I felt like my previous faith life had been a meandering path that was now on a Glory road.

If I’d felt that my journey had been special, I was to be outdone by the beautiful young woman I met that Fall—Pam Rose, who was even more exuberant about “all things Catholic” than me! We started a spiritual friendship (that continues to blossom to this day). We’d say the Rosary together, then spend hours talking about the Faith. Because I worked for the Campus Chaplain, it was easy to enlist Pam to be a Sacristan and Lector at Daily Mass. When not in Mass, we’d share meals in the cafeteria, meet after classes, and compare notes on how all that we were learning in the classroom added to our faith.

We were falling in love with each other in the presence of the Presence. It’s no wonder that I soon after asked her to marry me. After her initial excitement, though, Pam confessed to me that she wasn’t Catholic at all!

Pam had been brought up in a loving and supportive home in Las Vegas, NV. Never wanting to compromise Pam’s freedom to make her own faith choices, her mother and father, although not church-goers, allowed a friend to take then six-year-old Pam to a Southern Baptist Church Sunday School so that she could learn about the Christian faith. She soon was singing songs before the congregation and coming home asking to be baptized. Because they felt she was not able to make an informed decision at such a young age, they stopped that means of instruction.

By age 15, Pam did a high-school report on the various world faiths and came to the conclusion that religion was a crutch. But never underestimate how the Holy Spirit uses our daily witness as Catholics. Pam’s mom’s dearest friend, Marita Abramowitz, was a lifelong faithful Catholic, whom Pam watched, loved, and respected through the years. When Pam was 17, Marita was diagnosed with terminal breast cancer. After saying goodbye to Marita at Marita’s bedside, Pam tearfully admitted to her mom, “It [faith] may still be a crutch, but if it makes Marita that peaceful, then I guess it’s a good crutch.”

Soon after receiving a scholarship to UD, Pam met with Sister Mary Margaret at Holy Family Parish to inquire about the Catholic faith. Pam’s challenging questions soon became deeper inquiries into the nature of the Faith itself. By the end of the summer before attending UD, Pam knew she wanted to be Catholic, but she didn’t know how to be a non-Catholic inquirer at a Catholic school. Then she met Mr. Gung-Ho Catholic who’d so swiftly enlisted her into the ranks that she hadn’t had the chance to admit that she really was no such thing.

The situation was so strange to me, yet Pam was so sincere that the only thing I knew to do was for her to meet with Father Don Fischer, the campus chaplain. She was understandably not at ease with doing this:
“Father, um, I’m going to tell you something, and you have to promise you won’t get mad at me.” 
“Of course I won’t get mad at you, Pam.” 
“Um, you also have to promise that you won’t hit me.”
“Pam, I certainly won’t hit you. Please tell me.” 
“[Long, deep breath] I’m not Catholic I’ve never been Catholic I’m not anything ‘cuz I was never brought up Christian and I was afraid to tell anyone here so I’ve been acting like a Catholic and I want to become Catholic and please don’t hit me!”
Father Don didn’t hit her. He wasn’t mad at her. He was surprised. Better yet, he was heartened by her journey, for, in his words, it showed the amazing power of the Holy Spirit to call a person to the Church from outside the framework of the Church.

Holy Saturday Vigil 1984 Pam was baptized, confirmed, and took her first communion as a Catholic. It was the most beautiful Mass I’d ever seen. I didn’t think I could be more ecstatic than I’d been at my own reception into Mother Church, but Pam did that for me and continues to do that for so many other persons.

We continued together in the Faith. I graduated UD in 1985 and went to Penn State for my M.A. in English, while Pam finished her B.A. in English in 1987 (then continued in graduate work in Medieval Philosophy at UD). We married on June 27, 1987 at St. Viator Parish in Las Vegas, NV, settling in the Dallas, TX area, where we had our first son, Paul in 1988, then our daughter Cesara in 1990.

In September 1991, we moved to Krum, TX, a small town 40 miles outside of Dallas/Fort Worth, where we had our second son (and third child), Killian, in December 1992. We now found ourselves at a 40-mile physical distance from the parish at UD. Immersing ourselves in our community, we worked hard to change the world in our own neck of the woods. People around us noticed our activity and asked me to run for Mayor of Krum. Via a whirlwind of work, we were able to steer a campaign that won the office of Mayor.

Consumed by our community responsibilities, raising three children, and having no Catholic Church in Krum, we gravitated to the faith opportunities in our home town. Paul and Cesara took part in the week-long Vacation Bible School at Krum First United Methodist Church (UMC). Soon after, we attended church there and were delighted by their female pastor, who was a gifted preacher and musician.

I don't regret the decision to become Methodist. The UMC was, is, and will continue to be a means of blessing to many faithful Christians. Our reasons for choosing the UMC had to do with our own journey.

One day I came home from work and saw Pam poring over UM materials with a glow in her eyes. I joked, “Hey, now that we’re UMs, you could become a minister!” This beautiful woman, who never ceases to surprise me, this woman who had once aloud questioned whether women should be lectors (!), smiled eagerly and said, “Yeah, I know!” Suddenly, a vista opened to me—I too could become a minister! After all, my father was now a local pastor in the UMC.

A year later, in Fall 1995, we attended Brite Divinity School at TCU, with full fellowships and stipends. I
n January 1996, Pam was appointed a student local pastor at Kosse First UMC and Reagan First UMC in the far north of the Brazos Valley of Texas. I became student local pastor of Evans Chapel & Leona UMCs in June 1996. We raised our three growing children in the Kosse parsonage and later in the Cooks Point UMC parsonage. With the churches we served, we inherited multiple sets of surrogate grandparents. (One day, Pam was asked to involve the “young people” in worship in one of her congregations, only to find out that, by “young people,” the asker meant the 50-year-olds!)

Somehow, through it all, we never lost sight of the Catholic Faith. Again and again in seminary, as we were challenged by historical-critical methods of Scriptural exegesis, we fell back on the teachings of the Church Fathers, Augustine, Aquinas, and the inspiring philosophy and theology of John Paul II.

Although we were blessed by Methodist founders John and Charles Wesley’s emphasis on grace and their melding of pietism with the Anglo-Catholic sacraments, the UMC continued to pose difficulties for us that we couldn’t solve without referring to a Catholic understanding of the Church as the Body of Christ. Increasingly, we suspected that Methodism would have done better to remain a movement rather than becoming a denomination. We were especially uncomfortable with John Wesley’s departure from Apostolic Succession by his “ordaining” bishops to shepherd the Methodist denomination in the newly-born United States (as his own brother, Charles Wesley, had been!).

What’s more, we wrestled in our hearts with the UM understanding of communion as “real presence.” In UM theology, the bread and grape juice (not wine—the UMC has a temperance heritage) does not become the actual body and blood of Jesus Christ; rather, UMs believe that, in the consecrating and taking of the bread and cup, Christ is present but not locatable in the substance or any one thing.

Most of the UMs we served saw little more significance in Holy Communion than they did in moments of private meditation or in any other worship service without communion. A member of a Worship Committee of one congregation that Pam served asked, “Can’t you just say a prayer over it and hand it out?”

These instances alone should have shown us that not only were we deceiving ourselves but also the people of the UMC. Like us, many UMs were refugees from other belief systems—Southern Baptist, Catholic, Episcopal, Church of Christ, pagan. That both of us were feeling a hunger for the Presence of the Eucharist should have shown us that, although the UMC’s flexibility attracts some, it was, for deep and solid reasons, not a home for us.

Apparently, Pam caught onto this more quickly than I did. I was too consumed with my meanderings to see that I was longing for Mary and the Saints—the Communion of those who had gone before us, people whom we could know by name, history, and direct prayer, who were God’s blessed means of guiding and directing me in my journey.

Still, God never walked away from us; the Holy Spirit made straight with our crooked paths. Sometimes I’d wake up in the morning to find my UM minister wife watching the Catholic Television Network, EWTN, following along with the televised Mass in the Daily Roman Missal I’d bought her “on a lark.” On another “lark,” I bought Michael O’Brien’s brilliant novel, Father Elijah, devoured it in a week, then read it aloud with Pam, crying and rejoicing in the heartbreaking beauty of the Catholic Faith that it portrayed. On her own “lark,” Pam bought Mark Shea’s By What Authority, and urged me to read it (though it took me quite some time). We continued, throughout our Protestant sojourn, to pray the Divine Office (Liturgy of the Hours). On various occasions, we’d find ourselves haunting Catholic book stores and meeting cradle Catholics who’d become disaffected with the Church. What a lark it must’ve been for them to discover that these UMC clergy were closet apologists for Catholicism!

All these “larks” were actually dove-like promptings of the Holy Spirit. But still I couldn’t get the message. I couldn’t see a way out of the fact that our livelihood and our dwelling were provided by the UMC. The prospect of leaving raised huge “unknowns” for me, that I did not have the faith to trust God through.

Bright spirit that she is, Pam stopped worrying about the unknowns. Ministry was taking a toll on her, physically and emotionally. She continued in it because, despite the hunger we were feeling, she nonetheless saw the blessings it provided our children, who were growing into a beautiful young adulthood.

And she remained because I did a skillful job of burying the promptings of the Holy Spirit in a flurry of ministerial activity—as if by sheer dint of effort, I could make the Truth become something other than what the Holy Spirit, Mary, and the Saints had been trying to tell me: “Come back to the Eucharist. Come back to the Beloved.”

Ironically, I failed to convince the UMC of principles that I myself wasn't embracing in my own life. As the UM General Conference had endorsed, I tried to get the congregations I served to move to weekly communion and to more frequently avail themselves of the means of grace that the UMC recognized. But not only would they partake of the barest minimum offered to them, they began to fight me vigorously.

Could I blame them? I myself had fought the Holy Spirit’s call to return to the Eucharist. I began to feel in my body the wounds that my own rebellion worked on Christ. Diagnosed with depression, I sought (to no avail) secular jobs so I could leave the ministry. Church became an ashen taste in my mouth. It had been years since I’d truly worshipped. But I could see no exit to my self-made prison.

Thanks to medication and counseling, which were God’s blessed means of healing, I finally began to see ministry again in a positive light. I began to think that I could persist as a UM clergy and that, upon retirement, I would return to the Catholic Church. I told myself that I was “on loan” to the Methodists. I had opened the door to the Eucharist in the smallest way possible.

Then one day, God pushed it open. After sitting in on a class about Dante’s Divine Comedy that I taught to homeschool high school students and after visiting a Christmas Eve Mass at which a friend of ours was cantoring, my youngest son, Killian, said to Pam, “I’ll come to your confirmation class, Mom, but I don’t want to be confirmed a UM at Easter.”

“Oh, really?” she said.

“Yeah, I think the Catholics have it right. I want to become Catholic.”

Apparently, Killian had inherited his mom’s tendency to surprise!

We responded by taking him to Saturday Vigil Masses at St. Thomas Aquinas Parish in College Station, TX, 25 miles away. (We couldn’t go to the local Catholic Church near where we lived in Caldwell because of the local turbulence that doing so could create.) Not only was he further drawn to Catholicism, but Pam and I began truly to worship again. Even though we couldn’t take Communion, it was such a blessing to simply go forward, with our arms crossed, to spiritually take part. We felt like Catechumens again.

My older son, Paul, then set his heart on going to UD to study philosophy. I took him and my daughter, Cesara, to an exploratory weekend at UD. There, I renewed old acquaintances and a seemingly ancient longing for the Faith renewed itself in me.

So, a few weeks later, I found myself assenting to all that Mark Shea said in By What Authority. I searched out the Coming Home Network web site and found comfort and counsel there. I told Pam, and found out that she, too, had long had the same thoughts—and had already been at the Coming Home site.

The death of Pope John Paul II deeply moved us. In his purported final words, Pam heard a personal call back to Mother Church: “I’ve been waiting for you, and you’ve come.” Not knowing what to do, we simply let go and let God take care of what was to happen next. It was a blessed relief to lay down my self-will and to let God’s will be done according to His Word.

The results were exhilarating. I don’t remember fearing any of it. I was anxious—but not a paralyzing anxiety as I’d experienced during my depression. No, this was the anxiety of a rollercoaster ride, in which I was so enjoying the last stomach-drop that I had no time to anticipate the next twist, turn, rise, and drop.

Daily Mass became the fixed point of our lives. The Eucharist (though we still couldn’t partake physically) drew us to Christ and His Body the Church, ending our long, long self-imposed famine.

On Friday, April 15, 2005, we were back in the office of a priest, wondering if he was going to hit us. But Father Dean Wilhelm (who had been wondering who these glowing, non-Communion-taking-Daily-Mass-goers were) didn’t so much as raise an eyebrow at our story. He was truly a priest mediating the Grace of the Lord Jesus Christ to us. I’m proud of the Church that ordained him, and I’m so proud of the priest he is and of his tutelage of us and Killian.

We told him we had no idea how we were going to live. We had no idea how long the transition would take, but we wanted to commit ourselves to the path back to the Church. This was to be a penance. More importantly, we didn’t want our wandering journey in the Faith to prevent Killian from being able to make his First Communion in whatever time frame Father Dean and the Church thought best.

A mere 13 days after this talk, Pam and I had secured two teaching jobs at St. Joseph Catholic School in neighboring Bryan, gotten two more needed “second jobs” at a local place of business owned by friends of ours, leased a beautiful home in Bryan, and handed in our ministerial credentials (effective June 5, 2005) to our UM District Superintendent.

On the morning of June 5, 2005, we held our last Sunday services as UM ministers. That afternoon, Pam, Killian, and I professed faith in the Catholic Church and received the Sacrament of Reconciliation. The next morning, at Daily Mass, the three of us received Communion—Killian’s first. (Ironically, it was the last Mass that Father Dean said as Pastor of St. Thomas Aquinas; he was assigned by the Bishop to a position at St. Mary’s Seminary in Houston).

Our beliefs are now definitely where our livelihoods are. We try to teach simply by our witness. We’ve not ceased being ministers but instead, because of the Catholic Faith, the intercession of Mary and the Saints, and the Eucharist, we are more truly ministering—serving, in the original sense of the word—than we’ve ever done in our lives.

God draws straight with crooked lines. Dare we think that we are now on a straight course? I don’t worry. God paves the road. So long as God leads us, I don’t worry where the next turn will take us because I know that I am Home.


  1. This was a very very beautiful and encouraging story. I am going through some of the same things you went through as a teenager. Thank you for sharing your beautiful story with me.

    God bless you,

    Araceli Villalobos

  2. This is a most beautiful Spirit filled story. I think of my children raised as Catholics and then turning from it. Two of the boys are partially back, am praying that the Holy Spirit will bring them and their two siblings back. God Bless you for sharing this. Dee Ewing

  3. I'm in the same boat (both my husband and I are ministers) so I now how big a step you took!

  4. Wow. What a great Spirit-filled story. I was directed here by a link on Mark Shea's blog "Catholic and Enjoying It" -- thanks be to God for that! You had my attention all the way but when you got to the point of the story where Killian received his First Communion tears came to my eyes. Thanks for sharing.

  5. All of these comments are overwhelmingly humbling, for I feel that my story is or should be a caution.

    Please know that I am lifting you up in my prayers right now as you make your journey. Please pray for me.

    In Christ & Mary--Randy

  6. I am so breathless after reading this journey of yours, Randy. You and Pam mean so much to me; we are so One in CHRIST. We may never meet this side of Heaven but I believe that GOD ordained that we meet when we did, where we did so that I could share your wonderful story and have others meet you - others who will not fear to make a journey such as yours. GOD is faithful. I love HIM more after reading this. HE just does not let us go, does HE?

  7. Terry, I hardly recognize the people you're talking about here! But to honor the gift is to honor the giver. Isn't God's Grace beyond all human calculation? Who could have told you and me that we would meet this way? God bless you and your ministry on Facebook and elsewhere!

  8. Randy, this is my second attempt to leave a comment. I had said that I had tried to find "your story" from the Facebook page, and that today it finally worked; also that I now understand your leaving us, that I always thought you two were "more Catholic than UM", and that I'm happy you're now happy.

  9. Linda, thank you for your kind, kind words. You and Jerry are dear to us in a way that transcends county lines and denominational lines! Y'all were one of the reminders of why were so blessed to have been Methodists!

  10. A great story Randy. I'm sure that the Texas Catholic Community is far the better for your conversion. This time - Keep The Faith!

  11. Dear Randy,

    I just read this though again and am exhausted. What a journey and how faithful God is. I keep saying, "God never gets smaller!" He doesn't does He. His hand was over you both like a huge umbrella. He must have been smiling on both of you. The Angels and Saints were hanging over the heavens watching - not saying "Will they, won't they?" just watching for the next minute to happen. You are much loved by many! I am so blessed to know both of you. I love being Catholic!

  12. Miss Terry,

    Again, you shower me with your friendship and prayers. I don't deserve them, but I DO covet them!

    You are a living reminder to me of God's grace!!

    In Christ & Mary--Randy


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